Fancy Me, Professor!

Chapter 122 - He'll Be Wanting For More

As Shu Xian was busy doing her homework, it was now Zhang Ren's turn to get distracted.

With him seeing that Shu Xian is even searching this, he did his own research, already reading it when he came across the article from the net entitled, "Psychologists Explain 15 Ways to Make A Man Fall In Love With You."

As a smile crept on Zhang Ren's face, he tapped Shu Xian's shoulder, getting her attention. 

"If you're still worried with what you were searching about, I can show you one article that passed."

With Shu Xian rolling her eyes at him, Zhang Ren just sent her the link in a chat of their phone for safety purposes or else their other staff members or co-student assistants might see them "slacking off."

The moment Shu Xian opened the link by clicking the hyperlink on the chat, it opened to a new browser, making Shu Xian widen her eyes the moment she saw the title and the content. 

Psychologists Explain 15 Ways to Make A Man Fall In Love With You

As Shu Xian skimmed on the introduction of the article, Zhang Ren read with her, Shu Xian, proceeding to read the 15 ways enumerated in the article with its in-depth explanation. 

1. BE YOURSELF

Clinical psychologist Merry Lin writes in her book 'The Fully Lived Life', "Faking your way through life is believing that if you let people know the real you, they won't like you. 

"The tapes that play in your head say that if people really knew what was going on inside you, they would lose respect for you. While you play those roles, juggling those masks you have to wear and hiding your pain … the pressure increases to keep pretending you have it all together."

Therefore, none of this will work if you're pretending to be someone you're not! You want the guy to fall in love with you, not someone you're pretending to be. So, ditch your Sandra Dee from the end of Grease persona and just be who you are.

2. LOOK YOUR BEST

You don't have to go on a diet and change your hair to look your best. All you have to do is maximize your best features and make sure that you look as good as possible. Your beauty is unique, and doesn't need any changes.

3. LISTEN

Having good communication skills is about more than being able to communicate effectively. It's also about being able to actively listen.

Writer and journalist Irma Kurtz says, "No matter how bad things are, give your partner a chance to speak. We tend to jump in with an opinion before we've heard each other out. Don't scream, keep your cool: it makes a big difference. So often, things can be resolved by learning to listen."

Men have a lot to say, and when you show that you can listen, they'll be more inclined to say the things that matter.

4. LAUGHTER

It's proven that laughter is contagious. So, when you're laughing, you're setting off chemicals in a guy's brain to feel good. It can be totally addictive. If you're trying to attract a guy, then laughter is the best way to draw him in and keep him wanting more.

5. GOOD ATTITUDE

People with poor attitudes are often extremely negative people and not fun to be around. Having a good attitude about things, especially when things might not be going right for you, is extremely attractive and charming. A guy is going to be drawn to your ability to stay positive.

"Plus, by taking care of what you need to in your own life, you bring a more positive attitude back into the relationship. The other person will start to treat you differently—without you having done anything other than shift your energy into your own life," says wellness coach and author, Susan Biali.

6. BE SWEET

Everyone has the ability to be a little mean – but there's no reason to be! Turn off the part of your brain that wants to be catty and try being kind instead. Any guy will find that attractive. After all, you catch more flies with honey than vinegar.

7. FLIRT

If you want a guy to fall in love with you, then you need to show him that you're into him too! The best way is to flirt with him.

When it comes down to it, flirting is a mindset. It is saying to yourself, "I like them! I want to make them feel good by being nice, complimenting and letting them know that I like them." 

You can twirl your hair, but if you are not projecting warmth or even looking at them in the eye, it doesn't count," says relationship expert and television host Rachel DeAlto.

Guys will be drawn to girls that they know are already attracted to them. Plus, flirting is a fun way to be intimate with someone.

8. BE DIFFERENT

Being yourself is a great way to be different. It may seem like guys all like the same type of girl, but that isn't true. If you allow yourself to be different and swim upstream rather than go with the societal flow, worthy guys will notice. And, they'll fall in love with all of your unique differences.

9. BE WITTY

You don't have to go along with everything he says and agree with him. It's okay to have a few friendly debates and challenge one another – and being able to be witty and thinking quickly about your views will make him fall even more in love with you.

10. GET PHYSICAL

Guys don't always have to be the ones who initiate physical contact. In fact, a lot of guys love it when a woman wraps her arms around him, or leans in for a kiss first.

"Many times people become increasingly shy with the person they love the more time goes by. Keep your 'sex esteem' alive by keeping up certain practices on a regular basis. This allows you to remain vibrant, sexy, and engaged in your love life," says licensed individual, couples, and sex therapist Sari Cooper, LCSW.

Initiate the physical contact and he'll be left wanting more.

There were 5 more pointers to read but when Shu Xian specifically read number 10 so far, she blushed way more than she should, making her look at Zhang Ren accusingly. 

"What are you making me read?" she complained, blinking her eyes a few times especially with her remembering the last line saying, "he'll be left wanting for more."

With a laugh escaping from Zhang Ren's lips, he sighed, crossing his arms in front of his chest. 

"Come on! I'm helping you out here~!"

Rolling her eyes at him, Shu Xian and Zhang Ren continued reading the remaining 5 pointers left in the article.